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  1. Thanks for all the kind words from the forum! My legal situation of course is my number 1 priority Steve and I will be smart about it believe me it is on my mind. I still have my moments but they are few and far between. Pasadena.....buddy whenever you're down! BTW does anyone want a x2000 speedstur lid cheap? I'm going to sell it because I may not be able to keep the truck. It's got the full remote package and is lined with the carpeting underneath the lid with light. I won't be able to ship it but can anyone say roadtrip? It is painted onyx black and is in perfect shape. Send me a PM if interested
  2. Some interesting stories chase??......Let's see I had this girl I met at a club.. 40 ish but really on top of her game if ya know what I mean! Anyways I went out with her twice already and an interesting thing I noticed about her was she was getting to be "clingy" already??? WTF ...I mean I just met this girl and she said to me since I have no kids "I'll have your baby" I was like So needless to say after that I bailed out soon thereafter and it's a good thing I never hit that homerun with this chic Talk about being up front with me......
  3. It's probably been a good month or so since I have posted here. I want to say things are progressing good but slow with my situation. misterp, turbocharghedberserker, 04 chase, kaotik1, dylan06ss, sum1, Pasadena SS, SS_bnoon_SS, Drako, FwyFlyr, Black2003SS....I could go on but what I am saying is I have printed out my topic months back and read it what seems when I get down a bit. I am thanking all of you for your kind words through my dilema and I just wanted to tell you all thanks. Pasadena SS wrote something that I went back too to share. He said "Eventually everything gets better and you will be in here telling us about this fine new girl you went out with last night, don't forget were here for you bro" Well, I have had my share of dates the last 3 weeks or so and let me tell you, I still got the mojo going even though I haven't been on a date since I was 17, now I am 30. I have dated 4 different girls just for fun but it has brought my spirits way up! I will let you boys know that I haven't seen or spoke to the stbxw going on 3 months. It's all attorney talk now and she has clearly moved on and so have I for the most part. All the girls like the SSS and trip out when I gotta pop the doors open to let them in cuz there shaved. My truck is def. a conversation piece and sure gets a smile from them when they ride in it, talk about you boys all the time!! I am always glad I have friends in here. Special thanks to Steve and Eric..... Sounds like I have missed alot... Lay'em out boys Greg "blur"
  4. I'm with you there brother! I'm all for being civil when someone's all talk (usually I just end up laughing at them), but if someone touches me, IT'S ON! Especially if I was fresh off of a motorcycle and still wearing a full face brain bucket, LOL! Blur, you should have a BBQ for local SSS.com members and have a good old fashioned bitch session while talking about our favorite trucks. I know it would help me out if I were in that situation. Wish I could be there for you to share a beer and a bitch or two myself. Keep the head up man, you're doing great so far! <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Thanks bnoon Yeah, I was really close in laying her f**king dad out right on the garage floor. The problem with that though I am sure my STBXW would've been calling the cops and it would've gotten worse. I kept my cool and that was the smart way in handling that situation. I may not be so forgiving next time, and all I know is all my friends are wanting a piece of him now. He really f**ked up his own daughters fate with this marriage. I blame her more so than him...he should've NEVER been involved. She really has dug herself in a big hole by how she left, no communication as to owning up to the debt we both have or a simple why, emptying the savings account, and now this assault. That's 4 strikes already isn't it???????????
  5. All that has been done, I feel like this is some horrible nightmare to go through this with I thought would be the mother of my first born
  6. I don't think I mentioned to you all a few weeks ago when I was at work my neighbor calls and tells me my wife and her dad are at my house. I knew what she was looking for and earlier in the week I did hide them in the house for this reason. So, I hop on my bike and haul a@@ over there and sure enough they were still there garage open them in the house. So I roll up in the garage, get off the bike and continue to walk up to the door. At tha point before I can even get my helmet off I see the door open and her dad takes his had hits my chest and pushes me back and away from the door. He wouldn't let me in my own f**king house. I turnes to my wife who was just standing there not saying a damn thing and asked her is this what she wants......"Do you want a divorce I ask"...NO answer to anything I had said. Her dad telling me to shut up and this and that. So, finally she says I am here to get somethings...ok there inside let me get them. That jacka** follows me inside after I told him to leave!! He is following me throughout the house and keeps running his mouth. I lost it right there and said...you threaten me one more time in my home I am going to lay you out right here!! I kept my hands to myself this whole time yet he and I were verbally attacking each other. They left...and the wife did not have 2 damn words to say to her husband and the man she has known for 13 years. I was attacked like I was a monster.....but all I said to her as she walked to her car was I did nothing but love you. She drove off and yet to this day in the 3rd week of this mess no contact from her. I don't expect any either in all honesty, through my lawyer I am sure I will get a response because she got served either yesterday or sometime today. It is stated on the paperwork she left with no intentions of ever returning and with no communication at all from her I do not know her intentions. I needed an answer and I think when her dad crossed the line that was it. She should've never gotten him involved, this is between her and myself......and clearly as Dylan pointed out she is emotionally shallow and small... Her daddy wont be able to get her out of this mess anymore....BTW, yes I did call the police and filed a report against him. I won't press charges because I will be the better person in all this. Both are an embarrassment to what you would call a MATURE ADULT. I am pissed but hurt at the same time.......I just want to get on with my life!
  7. I completely agree with Dylan, What I meant was I am fighting through the situation as a whole. Sorry for that mix up in words. I just want to feel normal again
  8. sum 1, turbochargedberserker, misterp, dylan.....to all thanks!! I'm sure today she will get served. Not a thought from the heart obviously, but in mind. I was told by many people this is the right thing to do. She clearly scarred me pretty emotionally and giving her the satisfaction of the final touch in her serving me a divorce I don't think she will expect it at all. I'm sure she is thinking I will just wait and wait for her as I did 2 years ago. I waited 5 months for and het rock bottom. Depression set in, I was on medication, and had a counsler try to lift my spirits. I think since I have been down this road before things seem more balanced but not any easier. I do have a question though, I have got a stack of mail for her. I guess in all honesty I could just keep it and see if she has the maturity to call or should I not even worry about it and just keep it in a box. It's impossible for her to get in the house again because after last weekend I changed the locks out and reprogrammed the garage door, which is how she got in last time. What should I do about that? Things are progressing slowly getting used to the idea she is out of my life for good. It's still hard for me to invision being alone after all those years together, but I'm thinking now as Dylan said..."being as cold as she is makes her emotionally shallow and I'm realizing how small she is as a person". I really am fighting through this. I really don't mean to run my life's problems on the forum but you guys really lift me in so many ways and I thank you all for that! Greg
  9. Just to update you all on my situation. Erik (turbochargedberserker) purchased the carbon fiber hood. Thanks Erik...BTW it's will ship out today and I will PM ya Steve, Thank you for lending an ear. As far as my marriage, still no word from my wife (been 11 days). Actually when I was working on Saturday my neighbor calls me and said she was at the house with her dad. I took off from work and saw here there with her dad. Broke my heart because she looked at me with no feeling or emotion. Too make a long story short I asked her what she wanted to do, yet no reply from her. Her dad wasn't at all cheery with me, but I won't get into that. Needless to say I know where this is headed so I saw my lawyer yesterday. I cannot believe after 13 years of life together it ends like this. I am confident I will not here from her again nor will I see her again on free terms. I can't erase memories nor emotions but they will fade. Honestly my wife gave up on a marriage I knew could've lasted a very long time. My last words to her were "I did nothing but love you", said nothing back to me, and drove off. What went wrong? I've asked myself a thousand times, yet I need to be content with my answer. I cannot focus my energy and thoughts on something I cannot change. Thanks again for all the support! Greg
  10. I think right now as some of you may know, I'm not sure if I am going to be able to hang on to my truck due to my situation. I am selling a AEM polished Brute Force intake. It is in PERFECT shape and I will include the AEM cleaning kit as well. I am sorry for not having a picture of it for you but http://www.stylinconcepts.com/parts.aspx/p...031/brandid/180 here you go. I will take any reasonable offers just don't play me on this Please. I hate to get rid of it, but I am doing all I can to salvage my financial independence at this point. Greg
  11. Bullshit. Passion matters, it's a key essential to life. Question: why do you have shaved door handles on your truck, and why did you buy a carbon fiber hood? Answer: because you have dreams, and a clear vision in your head of what you want. Having definite dreams and visions is normal and a sign of a healthy mind, it's when one is without a firm eye on any target that that you begin 'wandering' through a mental and emotional morass. I am going to boil down what you have expressed here into its most simple terms - you are questioning your own sanity. And there is no problem with doing so, personally I encourage it of myself and my kids as doing so in a disciplined way gets you thinking outside the box, but do realize that is what you are doing. "Am I right?" "Am I wrong?" "Am I truly ****ed-up?" "Do I really understand how the world works?" "Am I just missing something here?" these are all signs that you are re-evaluating your grip on basic reality, questioning to what degree you are sane or not on a particular topic. You've got to be careful and keep what others tell you in perspective. Example from what you wrote "...happiness for you will not be hard to find because..." - obviously it is not that easy or else you (and thousands like you) would be happy. But a statement like this from well-meaning others plants that seed in your mind which makes you wonder if your grip on reality is correct or not. So take a comment like this as a uplifting compliment from your friends/family (you are a good guy) and leave it at that, don't try to take any more insight from it. The formula to success is simple. You come up with a dream, one you can picture in your mind, one you can almost taste. Then you figure out what it will cost to reach it (in time, money, sweat, dedication, whatever) and you pay that cost. And when you determine that you are not achieving your dreams then you step back, re-evaluate, get real useable suggestions from genuinely qualified people, make changes, and continue. Point #1 being, never give up your passions and dreams, you need them; they are a healthy and important part of your emotional well being. There's nothing wrong with you there Point #2: There's a difference between "nice" and "naive", believe me I know. You need to stay nice (I assume you like yourself that way) just not naive. Who do you think you are, Superman? In crawling back to her do you really believe that you can ever hold a relationship together by yourself? I lived the same way for a while, you would not believe the things I did for my now-ex under the idea that you should selflessly give everything to the one you love, and just like your situation it was far less than win-win, and certainly not sustainable. Mr. P. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Steve, I think what I mean with that quote said was that yes they are a neccessity in life but to hold that over my head for just one person isn't neccessary. I can see the BS involved with that quote because you are right feelings and desires is what makes a person. I just can't keep feeling the desires for my wife that I have if I want to move on. I guess thats what I wanted to say.......Man I am beat up
  12. Yet another day has passed and have not heard from her. I think when you mix your feelings and desires together that what makes it the hardest. None of the above is a necessity to go on with life. I have had so many men and women tell me happiness for you will not be hard to find because of the qualities I have as a person. I think my problem is I am too nice and because my heart hurts I would almost do anything to get my wife back. I look at it all though and have figured out that what I had wanted out of the marriage was nothing more that normal affectionate and loving things from her. I do feel that is not something I should ask for, it needs to come from her. I can say though she still has a place in my heart and the door is open for her to our home but that door and my heart cannot wait for an extended period of time. We were seperated before for 5 long months and I cannot do it again, not that long. I begged and crawled last time because I took so much for granted. She now is doing that without a doubt and I know karma plays a huge role in your feelings and thoughts when it hits you. I think she will get hers in due time. She needs to understand noone deserves to be left out in the cold like this with no reasons. A friend told me this morning "it's almost like if she was missing or just dissapeared and you have no clue if she is alive or not" That is the sort of "limbo" feeling I have..........I just want closure one way or the other. Thank you so much for you kind words and the pm's I have recieved on the subject. I come to you all everyday for strength. Greg
  13. all you guys deserve a very special thanks from me in the hardest of times. I will read this post daily to keep my head up for sure. SS boon SS was right "I am somebody, nobody deserves to be left without a word". I still haven't had any contact with her....a sad high schoolish way of doing things.
  14. WOW, I didn't think I had a set of friends with 1 common interest be so supportive. I am very blessed...THANK YOU!! I will keep my head up and save this post for me to read on a daily basis.
  15. You are more than welcome at my home anytime!!
  16. Steve That is some of the best advice I have ever heard. You are trully a stand up guy and I appreciate the truth to the situation you wrote. My feelings at this point is I have some of the best friends in the world even though we have never met. Thank you all so much for the kind words!!!
  17. At least 20lbs. lighter. VIS Carbon Fiber Hood
  18. I want to share something personal on this forum, and I hope I get some positve feedback from you. Too make a long story short I am without my wife. I came home from work Saturday and she left with all her belongings. No letter, no note or any contact or reason as to why. I belived this was planned because she left a list of things she wanted to take from each room and did it in a 6 hour time frame. She has always had good morals about her but here self pride takes the best of her but unfortunately her "divorced" friends play a huge part in her life. In order her family, friends, then myself came last, I have felt for a long time. 5 weeks ago an arguement struck and the words "I am going to my parents house and not coming back" was said. In shock I couldn't believe she said that. She also took everything in savings and closed the account. We did argue the night before and I believe that was all she needed. I am really heart broken. I don't know what her intentions are, we have been seperated before but went through marriage counseling and had gotten back together. I don't think it will go that way this time. I am prepared for the worst. I recently bought a carbon fiber hood for my 05 SSS and now need to sell it. If someone can put the post "check her out boys" I wrote up about a month ago with the pic pf the hood I would appreciate it. She took the camera so I have no way of taking pictures. I will do my best to keep the truck but since it's my responsibilty to pay the mortgage now we'll have to see. I will ship out the hood, I paid $650.00 for it, weighs about 17 pounds and is free of any scratches. Some adjustments may be required when bolting it up. Any reasonable offers please, just PM me. I was thinking 500.00 shipped. Please be kind with your comments and thanks
  19. I really do like the razor blade idea thing BTW...I had my SSS broken into last year....keep on the lookout
  20. F@*&king sweet Zippy You deserve an official silveradoss.com merit of taking out the bad guys
  21. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Camper or not it's an SSS, and a fast one at that!
  22. Damn misterp, I haven't had the problems with my McG. kit that you speak of I hope you get it all squared away
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