Aspentaylor Posted May 8, 2005 Report Share Posted May 8, 2005 Here is the situation.... 17 yo brother about to turn 18 in a little bit. He is a drug addict and alcoholic. He was just charged with possession of pot-court is at the end of May. The charge is not the problem...... There is no discipline in our house. He comes and goes as he pleases. He is drunk almost every night. I have caught him dealing drugs over the phone. He punches holes in the walls of my parent's house. Major anger problems Now he is spitting on my truck every day. Thursday night he threatened my life three times b/c we were home alone and he knew he could get away with it. He took apart my weight bench and hid the pieces-I had to go buy another one. He has been taking my change and money that lies around the house. Now I take my laptop and other valuables everywhere with me. Well parents don't do jacksh!t. I told my dad to have something lined up for him by Monday or I am taking action, but I have no idea who to call that could actually help. My brother will not voluntarily go to rehab nor will my parents take him. My dad just wants him to finish school and get the f**k out of the house. I told him it is better put him in a rehab and let him do a year over. His grades suck and I think if he gets help this summer he might be able to do better in school next year. Unfortunatley I am stuck at home for a while due to school and my sh!tty job that doesn't pay crap. So what do I do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneBadSSS Posted May 8, 2005 Report Share Posted May 8, 2005 You should look into one of those "scared straight" programs that are sometimes covered on talk shows. You know, the ones where it's like ex-cons and ex-Marine drill instructors that run the programs or "camps" and basically get troubled teens to own up to their actions and realize the negative outcome of their self destructive behavior so that they can turn their lives around. It might be the only way to get him to change his ways....Let me know if you need help getting contact info for some of those places, I'd be glad to help in any way I can... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aspentaylor Posted May 8, 2005 Author Report Share Posted May 8, 2005 You know for some reason that did not cross my mind. If you know of any please let me know. That might be a great idea. Since I wrote that last he was threatening to hit my dad because my dad was telling him to straighten up. Stupid kid. I swear! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TMBRWLF1997 Posted May 8, 2005 Report Share Posted May 8, 2005 Send his little a@# down this way girl, we will straighten him out. I am in the military and have been training with the Seal Teams I'm sure we could make him into a RESPECTFUL LITTLE BOY...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deezel Posted May 8, 2005 Report Share Posted May 8, 2005 Since you mentioned the upcoming court appearance, here's a thought. Perhaps you could write a letter to the judge presiding over your brother's case. The judge could sentence him to "boot camp" or other program depending on the details. And, by expressing your concerns privately to the judge, you wouldn't have to confront the situation directly. I hope you can help make a positive change come out of this. Best regards. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sswolfpac Posted May 8, 2005 Report Share Posted May 8, 2005 a louisville slugger should do the job couple of swings and it is over, sounds like he needs a good beaten or a hard slap to smarten him up. see if the judge can help or have him commited to a nut house or rehab program they will come and pick him up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Woffski Posted May 8, 2005 Report Share Posted May 8, 2005 Find a nice big baseball bat and tell him that if he touches anything else that belongs to you, you will break his legs!!!!! Then when he does it, because he will, do it!!! Go at him with the bat!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fox_forma Posted May 8, 2005 Report Share Posted May 8, 2005 have his ass arrested again next time he threatens ya or anything then make sure trhe cops know that he needs rehab and hopefully a judge will make him go. Since he is only 17 he has no say in whether or not he wants to go, it will be mandatory. That or a nice bat to the knees might do the trick. Sorry to hear about this situation Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aspentaylor Posted May 8, 2005 Author Report Share Posted May 8, 2005 Tmbr-If I could, I would! Believe me! Deezel/Wolf-I will be writing a letter this week! Hopefully it is one of the judges I know. Woff/Fox- Actually I am getting a stungun. i think that would cause a little bit less injuries. And the problem is I never see him taking anything. I am always gone, but I do place things in odd positions and when I come home they have been moved. Big problem is he turns 18 on Sunday. i already told him I will call the cops on him, but of course he does not care. He said he will beat the crap out of the cop and shot him with his own gun. All talk! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
56chevywagon Posted May 8, 2005 Report Share Posted May 8, 2005 Here you go Aspen... Scared Straight Boot Camp Hope this helps... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WEEZARR1&SS Posted May 8, 2005 Report Share Posted May 8, 2005 Sorry to hear about the pboblem, it sounds like an interesting situation, cuz if you do anything he is going to try to retallyate agenst it. So the best way is to outsmart him, the letter to the judge is a good idea unless the judge tells him where he got it from. That could get him kinda pissed off. Get some big friends that might help out. Good luck.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimB Posted May 8, 2005 Report Share Posted May 8, 2005 The problem is no matter what program you send him to if he don't want to change he won't. He will do the time and then more of the same. You have to make him want to change and things will happen. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flash2003 Posted May 8, 2005 Report Share Posted May 8, 2005 hey Aspen if you could hide a video camera in you room and catch him on tape that would also help. My buddy did that in a video store he owns and caught a girl lifting a few 20.00 and stuffing them in her pants pocket. He called her home and explained this to the girls mother and she said my daughter would not do anything like that. She and her husband went down to my buddys store to have this straightened out and my buddy showed them the tape. Over the last few days the store was short every day she worked. My buddy figured out what was lost and they paid him in cash. So he wouldnt get the police involved. Its funny how a video can change someones mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CHIEFZUSAF Posted May 8, 2005 Report Share Posted May 8, 2005 He'll never change unless he experiences a sigificant emotional event. Here's what you do: 1. Write a letter to the judge citing everything you told us and any other infomation you have. 2. The next time he gets drunk, superglue the palm of his hands together, dump a half bottle of cayenne pepper in his mouth and when he comes to beat the shit out of him with a frying pan. 3. While he is drunk and passed out, take everything he has, except the clothes on his back, and make a pile in the back yard, and light it on fire. 4. Join the Air Force and go see the world and enjoy life. Steps 1 - 3 will let him know never to screw with you again. Z Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wicked_SS Posted May 8, 2005 Report Share Posted May 8, 2005 I agree with writing the letter to the judge. I can tell you from experience that no matter how badly you want to help someone, they won't accept it and it until THEY are ready and it will be like kicking yourself in the ass if you keep forcing them. He has to come to that point of his own accord...there's nothing you can do until he does. Don't abandon him, just be the best sister you can until he gets to that point. And he will, I'm sure of that. Be strong girl, it seems like you have a long, hard, frustrating road ahead of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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