drako Posted September 12, 2006 Report Share Posted September 12, 2006 WOAH....well first off. some people can work together and be married. some cant. its the people who are in the equation just monitor thier productivity and if they can handle it thier productivity may go up. BUUUUUUTTTT this is just halarious you work in the PORN industry??? you never mentioned that before... <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misterp Posted September 12, 2006 Author Report Share Posted September 12, 2006 ...BUUUUUUTTTT this is just halariousOh man isn't it though you work in the PORN industry??? you never mentioned that before... HELLO MCFLY - where did you think the "Mr. P." nickname came from?! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
onyx_ss Posted September 12, 2006 Report Share Posted September 12, 2006 lol, i never knew you worked in a Porn industry Mr.P, gawd im late....hahahahah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misterp Posted September 12, 2006 Author Report Share Posted September 12, 2006 lol, i never knew you worked in a Porn industry Mr.P... I wish - legend in my own mind, I'm afraid... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hot rod truck Posted September 12, 2006 Report Share Posted September 12, 2006 lol, i never knew you worked in a Porn industry Mr.P... I wish - legend in my own mind, I'm afraid... <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Gay porn? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hot rod truck Posted September 12, 2006 Report Share Posted September 12, 2006 I know Steve, cheap shot Back on topic, We have a similar situation at work. Couple met, dated, got engaged, married, had a child together. Now they're getting divorced. Before it's done, one or both will end up leaving the company because of it. Both productive employees. No matter how hard they try it's not going to be as smooth as they would like. They talked about how everything was going to be split/ settled before they saw an attorney. Now that one of them has moved out and started seeing other people, it's not going well at all. Of course, now the drama is at work because they don't live together now. I think the owner may be looking ahead knowing the pitfalls of workplace relationships, and since only 50% of marriages last anyway, he's trying to avoid the worst case scenario before it occurs. Just my $.02 OTOH, sounds like they could make a reality TV show with the rest of the staff Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mwarren Posted September 12, 2006 Report Share Posted September 12, 2006 I am in that situation right now...so I can speak first hand. I am getting married September 30th to a co-worker. She is in the HR department and I am the Safety Director...we both report to the HR Manager. This is not a problem b/c our company policy states that spouses cannot work in the same area (I have my own separate office) and spouses cannot have a direct supervisory role over the other (which is not an issue). When we first started dating, over a year ago, there was a little stink around the plant but it has since died off. Once we announced that we were getting married all were happy for us and have not heard anything bad for a long time. I could not see firing two productive employees for this situation as long as they are both productive and their personal life does not spill over to their work. The company should follow their set policies (employee handbook, etc) or else legal troubles could follow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mwalls54 Posted September 12, 2006 Report Share Posted September 12, 2006 well they will have to check the employee handbook or talk to some one in HR. Some companys have a no relation policy. and yes they can either give one person the choice to either quit or be fired. My company does not have a policy like this. I work 10 ft from my girlfriend and I am her boss but we are very very professional. We shock a lot of people when we tell them we are dating and living together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoolBlueSS Posted September 12, 2006 Report Share Posted September 12, 2006 Yikes!! Sounds like a soap opera. I bet somewhere in there someone's feelings got stepped on, so it may be a personal thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misterp Posted September 12, 2006 Author Report Share Posted September 12, 2006 I know Steve, cheap shot Yeah I'll remember that one Before it's done, one or both will end upleaving the company because of it.It's already happening, they're ALLLLL quitting this morning (or so they say behind the CEO's back) Seriously I'm pretty sure the 'love triangle' is gone, and probably a fourth employee as well. Mr. P. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misterp Posted September 12, 2006 Author Report Share Posted September 12, 2006 mwarren & mwalls54: GOOD FOR YOU GUYS! Congrats mwarren. There's a whole other side to this issue - that is the problem is not only that employee relationships can upset the company, but the company can upset relationships too. When I was 19 (back in my porn star days ) I managed a True Value hardware store, the 3rd largest in the world at the time so that's like being manager at a large Lowes or HD today; anyway, my girlfriend/significant other worked for me in receiving for over 3 years, and we were very happy in that situation. Suddenly the owner of the store was removed/replaced by his 54-year old son (the owner was overcome with Alzheimer's) and the new man-in-charge hated my fcking guts, the feeling was mutual. Anyways, the new boss cornered my long-time girlfriend, calling her up to his office to collect dirt on me. Basically, she was cornered between her sense of duty and her love for me and because the boss threatened her with confidentiality BS she began drinking instead of telling me; shit got serious and I was fired (big surprise) and only then was I made aware of what was really happening and by then our relationship was destroyed. I don't think she ever forgave herself, she continued drinking and died of acute alcoholism 11 years later. I miss her. True story. Anger aside, my point to you guys is make sure that your superiors do not maneuver themselves into a position that drives a wedge between you and your spouse, and I would encourage that you discuss these types of things up-front. Luck favors the prepared. Mr. P. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoolBlueSS Posted September 12, 2006 Report Share Posted September 12, 2006 That's horrible, Steve. Sorry to hear that. On a lighter note, what cha got in th' box? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mwarren Posted September 12, 2006 Report Share Posted September 12, 2006 Wow...that is a terrible story. Luckily, in my situation we are both very conscious of the evil ways of some people. One of us will be leaving the company to eliminate any grief that may occur...hopefully me to corporate but that may be a while. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misterp Posted September 12, 2006 Author Report Share Posted September 12, 2006 Wow...that is a terrible story. Luckily, in my situation we are both very conscious of the evil ways of some people. One of us will be leaving the company to eliminate any grief that may occur...hopefully me to corporate but that may be a while.I'm not saying anyone has to leave, just keep your eyes open and stay aware of the management around you. And talk about stuff like this with your spouse beforehand rather than put it off. Mr. P. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mwarren Posted September 12, 2006 Report Share Posted September 12, 2006 Wow...that is a terrible story. Luckily, in my situation we are both very conscious of the evil ways of some people. One of us will be leaving the company to eliminate any grief that may occur...hopefully me to corporate but that may be a while.I'm not saying anyone has to leave, just keep your eyes open and stay aware of the management around you. And talk about stuff like this with your spouse beforehand rather than put it off. Mr. P. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Yea, I know I worded that totally wrong. We talked about this well before the marriage plans. Eventually, it will happen...after we are married Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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