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  2. I'm Baaaackk :)

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    Hey all, haven't been on the site at all since last year, losing my truck and all :( Looks like my father is coming into a decent settlement in the near future, therefore I have the possibility of being back into a Silverado :) If any of you need to contact me feel free, I feel like I lost a few good contacts, and for those who had my cell number I got a new one, so PM me if needed. Looks like this site has only gotten better and I'm seeing more and more posts, and new members. Hope to make some more buddies on here...

  12. Calling All Firefighters

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    I have a guy who stops in our Fire Department a few times a week to "be one of the guys" that has Multiple Sclerosis. He is somewhat of a collector of Fire Dept. Duty shirts from around the country. We have gotten him quite a few from surrounding towns, but he wants more from places around the US. Just wondering if any of you could make a donation of a shirt with your FD name or EMS shirt. His shirt size is a men's Medium. Thanks in advance to the patrons! :flag:

    I'll PM you my address so I can get them to him.

  17. 255/55/r18 For Sale

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    This is the O.E. Spare tire/rim setup for the Regency RST's. It has never been bolted on, brand new. It is an excellent spare for most as it will fit over the big brake systems like the SSBC on the Regency trucks. 100.00 takes it home. I am in the Southern NH area if you would like to pick it up. 100.00+ you pay shipping if not. Full tread, never even mounted at all!

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  18. I Know I Can Turn To You Guys

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    After reading Bishop's response I had another thought to add - you and your father appear to have a bigger issue than the alcoholism itself, and that is your father is "the lead dog" in your relationship and he is (my guess here) not capable of being in that role (the leader of the family).

     

    Dog Whisperer thinking here -

     

    The leader *never* chases the other dogs, instead they seek him. Your continued efforts to manage your father's life is just you 'pursuing' your father; by your actions you are indirectly 'promoting' him to a position of leadership between you two, in a way you're always following him around. And ignoring the alcoholism issue for a second, he is not strong enough to be a leader in your relationship at this moment. If I were me in your shoes, I would do exactly what Bishop says, and that is to move on (aka run your own life) but not alienate him - the continued efforts to manage your father's life are not working so you need to try another approach to the problem. Others will have to comment on this suggestion, but maybe instead of telling him exactly what to do, who to see, where to go, etc etc etc just make it clear to him what you expect (that is, to stop drinking and be a part of the family) and that he is always a welcome part of your life and as others have suggested when it finally does become important enough to him to stop drinking he will feel secure enough to do so :dunno:

     

    Mr. P.

     

    I'm liking this idea Mr. P!

     

     

    I am sorry for what you are going through Tyler, but as many others said, do not block him out. Obviously there is something wrong, some thing deeper then just his drinking. His alcohol abuse is just a front, a cover up for something larger eating away at him. This way of coping with difficulties is obviously not the answer. Your dad needs your love and support along with your family's, that's the only way he will be able to pull through this. It is imperative that you let him know how you feel. An intervention was mentioned earlier in this topic, this may be the only way to get through to him. Dumping his booze, screaming at him, and calling the cops are only gonna make him feel that much worse.

     

    Yeah, it's a cover from recent divorce, health issues, brain tumor (removed and hasnt come back) heart attacks...hes been through a lot which sucks :(

     

    All I am going to say, is go get help for yourself first, you should know that from your fire training. You can not help anyone if you are in need help yourself.

     

     

    http://www.aa.org Alcholics Anonymous

    http://www.adultchildren.org Adult Children of Alcholics

     

    I totally forgot about helping yourself first (in life outside the station) thanks for the reminder man! :thumbs:

  21. I Know I Can Turn To You Guys

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    Thanks for all the helpful replies guys, I just signed in today after posting this last night and was shocked at all the lengthy responses! Like I said, I knew I could ask here for some input! I am in contact with ala-non right now. Looks like I'll be going to some meetings to see how I can help this situation. I've got to get back to work, thanks so much ladies and gents!

  22. I Know I Can Turn To You Guys

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    Well guys, as if I don't have enough on my plate, my father is an alcoholic, but a functioning one. He has jack and gingers, at least three strong ones a night, in a large dunkin donuts iced coffee cup, as if its hidden. As a matter of fact it's for travel. He drives yes, and drinks. Not wasted drunk, as he has built up a tolerance. I've tried everything from calling 911 due to his heart condition, and being totally drunk, to taking his alcohol from him, dumping it out, etc. It's gotten so bad that he hides it in the rear of his SUV in the floor storage compartment. I don't know what to do, some say let him hit rock bottom? It's taking a toll on me, seeing as how he's not the man he used to be by any means. Most of the time now I'm staying on the couch at my cousins down the street because I hate seeing him drunk. He's combative and quite aggressive and takes out his anger through verbal and physical ways. He calls me almost every night and says "what are you living there now" and then I come back and tell him every time, "Dad I hate seeing you drink, and won't put myself around it" he gets pissed and says whatever most of the time and hangs up. Sometimes it's just a loud "SO WHAT IF I DO." Do I block him out and move on? Just looking for some tips guys...Thanks in advance to the great brotherhood of SSS.com :thumbs:

  25. I'm Going To Lose My Truck, Have To Give It Back.

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    I just went through the SAME thing back in December, as some guys on here already know. It was tough for me to let it go, but it's for the better. Less stress knowing you don't need to make a huge payment every month. I found it SO much easier to let it go when I parted it out. After all the mods were removed, it was like a stock truck, and I didnt even WANT it anymore. Keep your head up, life is easier without payments in this economy right now. Any questions on this feel free to PM me man, I've been through the exact thing your going through! Just do the same thing I'm doing, driving a beater with no payments, banking money and building my credit, and in a few years, hopefully I'll be back in the driver seat of a bad ass ride!

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